Relationship advice and relationship tips are all over the internet. A search on Amazon for “Relationship Advice” yields 14,165 books. That’s a lot of reading. I’m going to make it a lot easier for you with these relationship tips. If you read my page about the Home Cooking Academy, you’ll read my story how I took a lot of classes, read books, and ultimately did not end up where I wanted to be. It wasn’t until I had my Cooking Ah-ha moment did I find out what I needed to do. As a result the Academy was born. The same is true with relationships.
I am a researcher. I study. I read books, magazines, blogs, and statistics. I compile a great deal of information. Much like I discovered with the normal cooking information available, when it comes to relationship tips, there is a tremendous amount of disconnected information out there. Somewhere there has to be something that binds it together as a framework. In the end, I was much like Matt Boggs and Jason Miller, 2 twenty something guys, tired of bad relationships who decided to do something about it. It’s a great story called Project Everlasting. They set out in an RV criss-crossing the USA with Matt’s grandmother Dorothy in search of successful long-term marriages. They interviewed hundreds of these Marriage Masters and wrote about their findings in their book “Project Everlasting.” I didn’t criss-cross the USA, but I did make the discovery I was looking for.
My Relationship Ah-ha Moment
Like Matt and Jason, I too had my share of unsuccessful relationships. In my quest to find answers I spent plenty of time with Dr. Phil, the men from mars and the women from venus, countless doctors, therapists, psychoanalysts, and even Oprah (not personally but through all the materials they produce). In the end, I had a lot of information that didn’t connect. It wasn’t until I came across a personal development mentor of mine you probably know of, Tony Robbins, who has worked with master psychologist Chloe Madanes. Chloe Madanes is a world-renowned author and therapist in the areas of family and strategic therapy. In 2000 they formed the Robbins-Madanes Center for Strategic Intervention. What they do is absolutely stunning! In watching their interventions, turning couples ready to divorce into loving couples, I had my relationship ah-ha moment.
I found the framework I was looking for; the ties that bind all the relationship tips together. It’s called Human Needs Psychology. One of the key elements of Human Needs Psychology (HNP) is the 6 human needs. How we behave and act can be tied to our priorities of these 6 human needs. It is said that when we meet 2 of the needs of another person, we have a connection. When we meet 4 of the needs, we have a bond. When we meet all six, we have an everlasting relationship.
Relationship Tips Emphasizing Consistencies – Success Leaves Clues
What you will find in my relationship tips are the consistencies I discovered from various resources all in the framework of Human Needs Psychology. You will discover, as I did, that there are similarities in what Gary Chapman writes about in “The 5 Love Languages” to what John Gray wrote about in “Men are from Mars Women are from Venus” to what Les and Leslie Parrott write about in their book “Becoming Soul Mates.”
Individually what they write is good, but when combined with a framework to which you can anchor your understanding, everything becomes clear. I am not a therapist. I do not meet with clients. Like Matt and Jason who did their research and discovered consistencies in couples married 40, 50, and even 60 years, I made my discoveries.
Relationship success leaves clues. I uncover those clues for you.